An article on knowing one’s own self and introspecting it to feel good, live good.
Life is vast, difficult and profound. Leading it rightly and successfully is very challenging. At times we may be rocking the earth and the skies and claim that our power is universal to touch the zenith always. But there may come the hard times the downer ones which just come and we can do nothing about it. We need to at such critical times have our selves rightly with us and do our dos. Sometimes lack of self-worth and zero self-confidence can be depressing and torturous and it can affect everything of a person’s life very smartly. One needs to trust his capabilities and repose trust in him or herself. One should cash on the coming opportunities and demand a better deal for their selves from life. One needs to polish out the hidden endearing qualities inside him or her. When time is ready one must nurture a sense of self-worth and learn to take pride in his or her work or existence. It can sometimes be good to cultivate a sense of arrogance and pride which in fact the best religions of the world teach to shun. One must not totally subsume themselves to the greater good, as all good, spiritually inclined human beings are supposed to do. One should sometimes feel the ‘strong and deadly serpent’ of ego. All over the world, from Hinduism, Islam to the Zen masters, all religions have taught us to drop or get rid of ego or the sense of our self because it is the ultimate goal of life and spirituality. One must try to love themselves, have a degree of self-worth and play out our karma to the best of our abilities. Strangely, we are taught on one hand to drop ‘I’ or ego while on the other, self-help books and modern day gurus insist that if you have no sense of self-worth, you cannot possibly lead a happy life. If you do not love and respect yourself, how can you possibly extend those feelings to the rest of the world? Isn’t there then a conflict between the two notions, dissolving the self and trying to get a better understanding of it? How can one stop using the word ‘I’ and simultaneously make the most of his or her God-given talents and worth? On the other hand if both ego and self-are illusions, then what harm can one possibly do by indulging in one or the other? Do you become egotistical you are proud of your professionalism and ambitions? Or one is rightly self-aware and on the right path? Modern-day spirituality does indeed seem to have evolved from a state that demanded the death of the self to one that recommends self-awareness,self-enhancement, and self-actualization. Or it could be that we have helped evolve a better balance between an understanding of the aspects of karma, ego and self-awareness.understanding the self, it is said is the key to liberation. We are taught to understand and grow to the maximum of our potential, that is the duty we owe to ourselves. Or then, what else are we doing on earth? To understand yourself is just being yourself each moment of every day, doing what one considers right. It means standing up to injustice meted out not just to others but to you as well. Be fair to and honest with yourself. Once you are aware of your own strengths and weaknesses and accept them for what they are, the rest follows, you have entered the rhythm of life. In a talk, Dr.Deepak Chopra stresses on the nothingness or illusion of a separate self. He says ‘It is possible to have experiences that tell us we are much more than our body and ego even more than our body and mind. He stresses that at the core of our being our spirit is the most real thing about us. It is what connects our package of skin and bones, energizes it, animates it. Once the higher self is awakened and integrated into everyday life, we realize we are infinite, powerful and connected to the cosmos. Buddhism teaches that as you become self-aware, this dispels all ignorance about the nature of the self. And we become accepting and non-judgemental, not just about ourselves but also about others. And if we have no wrong notions about the self and are non-judgemental, where is the danger of being harmed by the ill-effects of ego? You have then managed to make your ego work for you rather than allowing it to work on you.